NEW YORK (AP) — As an Army general faces a string of sexual misconduct charges involving female officers, his wife is seeking to stir a broader look at often taboo subjects in military marriages: adultery, the strain of separation and the stress of war.
Rebecca Sinclair
stayed away from the days-long military hearing earlier this month at
Fort Bragg, N.C., where the allegations against her husband, Brig. Gen.
Jeffrey Sinclair, were revealed in detailed testimony. Women officers
described an affair, forced sexual encounters and a series of explicit
email exchanges with the former deputy commander of the 82nd Airborne Division in Afghanistan.
But
his wife has since made herself a public face of his defense, and of
what she sees as the toll of a decade of war on military couples, many
of whom have found themselves in a repeated pattern of deployments,
homecomings and moves.
"I am
not condoning anything, and I'm not excusing my husband's infidelity.
I'm not saying that just because we're on this deployment cycle and
because of the war, that causes infidelity," she said by phone Monday
from New York, where she had traveled for interviews after airing her
feelings in an opinion piece Thursday in The Washington Post. "I'm just
trying to understand it, and I'm trying to get conversations started so
that people can look behind and see the bigger issue."
Her piece came as adultery in the military has flared up as an issue, following retired Gen. David Petraeus'
resignation as CIA director over an affair with his biographer and the
disclosure of what officials have described as suggestive emails between
a Florida woman and Gen. John Allen, the top U.S. commander in
Afghanistan; he says he's done nothing wrong.
It
also comes as Jeffrey Sinclair waits to hear whether he'll be
court-martialed on charges including forcible sodomy, wrongful sexual
conduct, misusing a government travel charge card, and possessing
pornography and alcohol while deployed. The 27-year Army veteran was
relieved in May of his duties overseeing logistics for the 82nd
Airborne.
The Associated Press does not name victims of alleged sexual assaults unless they agree to be identified or come forward publicly.
Defense
lawyers portrayed Sinclair's primary accuser, the captain, as a lying,
jealous lover trying to ruin his family and career. Defense lawyer Maj.
Elizabeth Ramsey suggested in her closing argument that the general was
guilty only of adultery and fraternization, punishable by a written
reprimand. The defense team said Sinclair had passed a polygraph test
during which he denied sexually assaulting the captain.
In the meantime, the Sinclairs are trying to mend their relationship, she said. And she is pointing to her personal story as a testament to the pressures on military marriages and families.
Her husband has been deployed to Iraq,
Afghanistan and elsewhere five times since the Sept. 11 terror attacks,
spending a total of six of the past 11 years away from his wife and two
children — the eldest, a sixth-grader, has attended six schools so far,
Rebecca Sinclair said.
Many
military wives know their husbands are unfaithful but stay silent to
preserve their families or their financial security, especially because
their spouses' own careers can be hampered by frequent moves, said
Rebecca Sinclair, who has taught business at various community colleges
during her 27-year marriage.
Her
husband's affair and the fallout "is very painful for me, very hurtful,
but I just really feel that this is something I need to talk about,"
she said. "Because it's not an isolated case."
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Report by Jennifer Peltz AP
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